For Parents Who Have Lost Children

My name is Sandra K. Harris-Smith and I am the proud mom of Ssgt. Jeremy D. Smith of the United States Marine Corps 03-09-85 - 04-06-11.

This is the most devastating event in my life and propels me into intense challenges every day to survive this tragedy.  This is why we are called survivors.  Wives/husbands are widows and children who have lost parents are orphans.  But parents and siblings; we are survivors.

With this said I am reaching out to all parents who are surviving each day and are doing the very best they can in their own way and timing to grieve, accept and "nano-steps" at a time to try to push forward.  There will always be steps back and steps forward.  In the beginning, however; you are stuck in a dark nightmare that is terrorizing.  A letter that my son wrote to me stated "don't stay in midnight".  I always refer to him as my "Sonshine".  Now I ask and pray in times of torment that he be allowed to shine his "Sonshine into my midnight hour".

I once read that it takes two years to have a sense of normalcy but I say that is the minimum....I have been told by other parents for them after 10 years that it never gets easier, you just learn to accept and live around this tragedy.

I find the only way I can get through a day is reaching out to Mother Nature, the Universe, God, the Energy at my Core or the Holy Spirit.  There are so many labels to the Spirit and I try never to go the religious route, but instead enter into the Spirit; the Spiritual realm.  This isn't about religion, denominations - there are so many..... I love the Spirit and hope and pray that everyone understands that our words as a language is merely sign posts to communication.

I have had many spiritual visits with my son.  I hear his voice, he has comforted me, he has made me laugh, he holds me up, he has watched over me during the night and I have even had a a few out of body experiences with him.  I am a novice, I am no different than you.

I have spoken to so many parents who have had the same experiences with their children but they are afraid to speak out about the visit/s they have had or the spiritual experience/s.  It happens more times than anyone wants to admit.  Perhaps some are frightened by it, perhaps some are afraid others will think them crazy; others don't want to be ridiculed or criticized.

I have had my own family and friends wonder what the hell I was talking about, until my son visited them and they no longer are skeptical.

I have been criticized by my own family saying they are offended that I speak of my visits with my son.

The reason for this blog is for me to be a BIG MOUTH about my experiences and shout it to the roof tops and make it known to as many people as I can that will listen or at least be inquisitive enough to open themselves up to a visit from their loved one.  It is remarkably healing and strengthening.

If you are yearning for a glimpse at how well your loved one is doing in the nonphysical realm please know there is no formula, mantra, religion, hoaxes, spells or any other route other than being receptive.

I have another blog that I share my tears, my spiritual experiences; my journey with my son Jeremy and I am also in process of documenting Memoirs and will be publishing these in a few months. 

The reason first and foremost is to reach out to you, especially if you have lost a child; it is a dimension that if you are not in "our shoes" you will never understand the depth, anguish and despair that plagues you.

In reaching out to you in this your most desperate time; I am hoping that I might help you by sharing and relating with you.

My blog that I share these experiences and my trials: http://www.memoirswithjeremy.blogspot.com

Book:  Memoirs with Jeremy by Sandra K. Harris-Smith dedicated to my son will be published in a few months.

I also have two other books: 
1) domestic violence and the last chapter is grief dedicated to my son "Is It the Beginning or the End?" by Sandra K. Harris-Smith on Kindle and Color Nook (the book with two endings)

 2) "The Symbolism's of the Rainbow" by Sandra K. Harris-Smith on Kindle and Color Nook - my son inspired this book - and it's an amazing spiritual journey on the rainbow with research regarding spiritual meanings of colors, etc.

I hope all of this helps someone, somewhere........

With Love and Understanding,

Sandra K. Harris-Smith
Proud Mom of Ssgt. Jeremy D. Smith United States Marine Corps
03-09--85 - 04-06-11